Being a full time caregiver often feels like Ground Hog Day—cooking, medications, routines, repeat. But sometimes, we need to hit pause on the responsibilities and just have fun.  It’s important for your loved one – AND FOR YOU!

One of my favorite memories with my mom was the day I planned an adventure filled with her favorite things. We drove from place to place, stopping for her favorite meals, snacks, and little treats along the way. By the end of the day, she was exhausted—but happy, full, and so incredibly loved.

Because here’s the thing: our loved ones aren’t just patients, responsibilities, or “burdens.” They’re still people we love dearly who deserve joy, adventure, and to feel truly special.

Planning the Ultimate “Favorite Things” Day

Many times, the best days are as simple as a good drive, good food, and good company. Here’s how to make it happen:

Step 1: Pick the Route – Choose places that mean something to them. Maybe a childhood neighborhood, an old favorite diner, or a park they love.

Step 2: The Food Tour – Stop for all their favorite things! Breakfast, coffee, snacks, dessert—this is the day to indulge. Apple pie is her favorite food, and watching her eyes light up as she ate it, was the best.

Step 3: Set the Mood – Make a playlist of songs they love and turn the car into a rolling time machine of happy memories.

Step 4: Capture the Moments – Take photos, record little videos, and soak it all in—those moments still matter – and you can show them the videos when they don’t remember.

Step 5: End with Comfort – After a full day, help them wind down with a cozy evening—maybe a warm blanket, and their favorite tea.

Why It Matters

It’s a break from the routine. They spend so much time being cared for—this is a day for them to just enjoy. Relying so completely on someone is hard on them, too.  Just getting out to enjoy the sunshine makes them feel a part of something and not just the “patient.”

It brings moments of clarity. Something about music, favorite foods, and special places can bring the past back for a little while.  It’s amazing – and I do a full stop when it happens and enjoy the moment.

It reminds them they are loved. No one should ever feel like a burden. This is your chance to show them, “You matter. You are special. Today is for you.  I care for you because I love you – even if I’m worn out by the weight of the load.”

Caregiver Hack of the Week:

“The Memory Playlist” Put together a playlist of songs that mean something to your loved one. Play it in the car, during quiet moments, or just to brighten the day. Music is a powerful way to bring back emotions, stories, and connection.