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Some days, the blues just hit and no matter how much effort you put in, it seems like you’re dropping balls left and right. The house is in disarray, your loved one is having a tough day, and it feels like it was 1999 the last time you were carefree. These days can make you question your abilities and worth.

You’re Not Alone in This Feeling

It’s essential to recognize that these feelings are a common part of the caregiving journey. Many of us experience moments of doubt and sadness, questioning if they’re doing enough or doing things right. With a sense of loss of identity that comes with caregiving, it can compound the feeling. Remember, feeling overwhelmed doesn’t mean you’re failing; it means you’re human.

Embrace the Imperfect Moments

Perfection is an illusion, especially in caregiving. It’s okay if the laundry piles up or meals aren’t gourmet. Sometimes hotdogs and macaroni are what makes my mom happy. What matters most is the love and care you provide. Celebrate the small victories: a shared laugh, a moment of connection, or simply making it through the day. That’s me some days. Just trying to get through the day. It’s not pretty, but it’s real.

Find Your Support System

Connecting with others who understand your journey can be incredibly therapeutic. Our caregivers group that meets on Wednesdays is a lifeline for me. Sharing, laughing, understanding, consoling and just being there for one another is priceless.

Find a space for support. Whether it’s a friend, a support group, or an online community, sharing your experiences can lighten the emotional load. Remember, seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness. And, when you share with others who REALLY understand – it’s a sunshine hour.

Prioritize Self-Care

Every day, but especially on the tough days taking care of yourself isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity. Even short breaks—a walk around the block, a few minutes of deep breathing, or enjoying a favorite song—can rejuvenate your spirit. When you nourish yourself, you’re reinforcing that identity or feeling of purpose that you’re missing.

Give Yourself Grace

On the days when everything feels heavy, remind yourself of the compassion and dedication you bring to your role. It’s okay to have off-kilter days. Remember, they are temporary, and that its a signal that you need to focus on you for a moment. It may be in five minute increments, but they add up. On days that are hard, do the minimum – there’s always time for the tasks later. Just rest for a moment guilt-free.

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Caregiver Hack:

No caregiver hacks on this stop…just give yourself a break and breathe. You’re doing amazing – even in the moments when our hearts don’t feel like it. Real talk!!!

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